Volume 39 - Humanity

Who are we?   Why are we here?  What matters?
What if our mission statement was Meg Wheatley's plea: "Take care of yourself.  Take care of each other.  Take care of this place"?   

These questions and their answers must be the heart of our communities.  If we don't ask these questions and live our answers, we have no basic understanding of and agreement about what we are doing here, no agreement about why we belong together.

This past November 11th -- Remembrance Day here in Canada -- I stood, as I do every year,  with some of my neighbours near the cenotaph in the beautiful little seaside village I call home, honouring those who have died in war. 

Listening to the local high school band (including my daughter and her friends) playing for the event, remembering an uncle whom I never had the pleasure to meet, the tears flowed.  

I always feel emotional at the Remembrance Day ceremony, partly because my  uncle -- Cpl. Roy Ovington --  who grew up here on Vancouver Island, at Youbou, died in battle at the tender age of 19.  Partly for the tens of millions of people who have died at the hands of other people.  Partly because humanity is still at war, though I've now lived through 54 Remembrance Days and heard the same pleas for peace.  

For some reason, this year, I felt especially emotional, looking around the crowd.  Perhaps because my only son is about to turn 20, and has his whole life ahead of him, and my uncle didn't get his.  Perhaps because the better world we were supposedly creating by fighting those wars hasn't materialized for most of humanity.  

I looked around and saw the familiar faces of the neighbours I see day to day or month to month, year after year -- and as I saw them, I remembered their back stories.  The pain they have felt, the challenges they have faced.  What they have endured.    

Being human involves suffering.  Things don't always go smoothly, in the life of an individual, a family, a community, a nation.  We humans are always struggling to make our world -- no matter how big that is to us -- a better place.  


When we are really in the thick of some of what life hands us (a terminal illness, a loss by death or divorce, loss of employment or a long cherished dream), our world can feel pretty small.  Many of our brothers and sisters around the planet are imprisoned in the tiny, terrorized worlds of war zones or abject poverty, slowly dying from hunger and disease.


It struck me, standing there with tears in my eyes, that really, at the heart of it, we're more the same than we think.  That we all want the same things, though we have different ideas about how to get them.
  
What do we all want?  


I think we all want to live in a place where healthy, happy people of all  ages live together peaceably and productively, in communities that cooperate ... with each other, and with the land we live on.   A world that is at peace.  What prevents this?  I don't think humanity as a group has learned how to live  the virtue of  humanity.


To practice the virtue of humanity,  Linda Kavelin Popov reminds us,  "We must have an attitude of caring and mercy towards all people.  All of us breathe the same air.  All of us care about our children's future.  We all suffer and we all rejoice.  Though in the big scheme of things, each individual is small, we are one of a kind, irreplaceable.  We lose our humanity whenever we generalize about a group of people and separate ourselves from them because of external characteristics, like race or gender."  


I think we lose our humanity when we generalize about a group of people and separate ourselves based on religion or political ideology as well.  There is no "they," only "us."


I recently was elected to the Council in the municipality where I live.  I talked a lot about inclusiveness, about communication, about working on making it possible for marginalized people in our area to make a life here.  It's become very clear to me that we can create the kind of community we all want.  The kind of world community where individuals rise above the narrow confines of personal concerns, and serve the broader concerns of their neighbors.  
The wider concerns of humanity.


Bruce Lee had it right when he said being "willing is not enough; we must do.  Knowing is not enough; we must apply."


To really remember and honour those who died in battles -- both soldiers and civilians -- we ought to become the kind of community, worldwide, that they sacrificed their lives for.  

Together, we can. 


 Namaste ~ Kate


The Practice of Humanity


I feel a common bond with all people.


I value each and every person as an individual.


I refrain from prejudice.


I feel empathy for the suffering of others.


I have a passion for compassion.


I offer humanitarian service.


I am thankful for the gift of Humanity.  It connects me to all people.


Reflection Questions


What service does my humanity call me to?


What action would help me answer the call?

Volume 38 - Unity (in diversity)

" We know that we are the ones who are divided and we are the ones who must come back together to walk in the Sacred Way."  Ojibway Prayer - Oneworld Book of Prayer, p. 152

This weekend a group of folks staged a murder mystery dinner theatre event, here in the town I live in,  to raise funds for an x-ray machine for our local Healthcare Centre.  Haven't heard yet how much money was raised, but the raising of a sense of community was palpable.

Over the course of 2 evenings 160 people were hosted and fed a five course meal and some mighty powerful performances by a cast of 12 made up of both amateur and professional actors.  

The meal was made by the  incredible United Church men and women, whose hospitality and delicious fare are well known in these parts.  Their able service was assisted by young people from the high school drama department and the Girl Guides of Canada.  Much of the food was donated by local farms and businesses.  

The play was loosely based on historical people (who's names had been changed) and on a real historical meeting that took place in 1900 to garner support for a new hospital in Chemainus.  The basement of Chemainus United was transformed to look like the Horseshoe Bay Inn at the turn of the 20th century.

It was a wonderful experience and I was delighted to be a part of the committee  and the wider group that put it on and to have a small role in the play.   There were literally so many people involved I haven't space to name all the names. 

Sitting here in bed, nursing (no pun intended)  the cold that grabbed me the morning after we finished, I'm still basking in the warm memories.

The idea for the play was planted about a year ago,  during a conversation with a couple who are members of the church while I  was setting up to facilitate a workshop there.

It grew roots over the winter culminating in eight folks playing a box murder mystery game early in the spring  (dinner being served by about the same number of observers)   and then forming a committee that met over the course of about six months, planning and giving feedback to the play write - who adjusted his vision to their wise input.

Much thought and consultation went into the venture. One of the most successful things in my mind was drawing on the able contribution of the children and youth from the community.

We are spiritual beings, having a human experience as Pierre Teillard de Chardin reminds us.   It's imperative then that  our kids feel important and needed -- they need this so much  more than they need material possessions and the latest gadgets.  

Another reason for the play's success was that several professional actors -- getting wind of the event --  offered their able services.  They helped us more amateur thespians rise to the occasion. 

It was a longtime dream of mine - to act,  and though my part was small, I could see it was an important one as was everyone else's from the villain to the people who set up the tables and chairs and washed the dishes.  Without each and everyone's input and support the event could not have been the success it was.

The reception was warm and wonderful and I think everyone in the room had a sense of what a community can accomplish by working together.

I've heard there was a similar experience down the street at the Legion Hall, where another group of volunteers mounted a production of The Full Monty the last two weekends.   Much of the positive buzz was around the sense of community these events engendered in performers and audience alike.

As I reflect on the  process, I'm struck by how important every little step, and every person's contribution is when creating something new for the community.  Each person's concerns were heard along the way and the direction was sometimes altered because of their wise council.

As I enter the final leg of my run to serve my community as municipal councillor, I reflect on the role of a Council in a community.  And  my commitment to better,  earlier and more thorough communication deepens further.

I just know in my heart that bringing everyone into the equation is what builds a resilient community.

That's what we  humans are --  all over the world -- a  community.  Neighbours working together, to make our future strong.  Striving for unity, there is so much more that we can accomplish.

"Unity is a powerful virtue and it brings great strength.  Unity is inclusiveness.  It brings people together.  We see our commonality without devaluing our differences.  We experience our connectedness with all people and all life.  Unity frees us from the divisiveness of prejudice and heals our fears.  We refuse to engage in conflict, seeking peace in all circumstances.  Unity comes when we value every person, in our family or in our world.  The joy of one is the joy of all.  The hurt of one is the hurt of all.  The honor of one is the honor of all."

Linda Kavelin Popov

The Practice of Unity

I am a lover of humanity.

I seek common ground.

I appreciate differences.

I resolve conflict peacefully.

I honor the value of each individual.

I am a unifier.

I am thankful for the gift of Unity.  It makes me an instrument of peace.

Reflection questions

How can I value each person I meet?

What helps me seek common ground when I meet others that are different?

How can I include children and youth more in my daily life?

In what situation might I be the instrument of peace?

Volume 37 - Perseverance

Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do.  Where there's love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong.  --Ella Fitzgerald

Taking on a  new endeavour of any kind challenges us.   I knew when I decided to throw my hat in the ring and run for municipal council that it wouldn't be a walk in the park.  Actually taking the step to do it has brought up so much.

Who knew that running in an election would be so time-consuming -- before the nominations even open?  And of course, whenever one steps forward advocating change, they become a screen for people's projections.  Everyone expects you to know everything about their  important issue.     Some days, I've wanted to stop the train and get off.

I imagine there are days you feel that way, too.  On those days, I feel it's just not worth it, and I think, "I want my life back."  Then I sit back and reflect on what made me want to move in this direction in the first place.

I think about my ancestors, the folks who packed up all their worldly goods and crossed the ocean 130-odd years ago to come to  the "new world."  They came with hope in their hearts and a vision about a life for themselves and their families.  A better life.

My great-great-grandparents, Jonathon and Elizabeth Bramley settled with their children in Extension, BC.  Coal-miners, the men worked hard at their vocation and found the time to clear the land and farm.  Growing most of their own food (as many families did back then) they persevered through the trials and tribulations life sent their way.  Ironically, when coal was discovered right on their property, things began to go poorly.  The government  had given the mineral rights to a man now known in our parts as a "robber baron,"  in exchange for his building a railroad up the island.  It's a long story, but suffice to say, it didn't go too well for the little guys.

Seems it seldom does.  So, on the days when I feel like stopping, I lean on perseverance and remain steadfast and focussed.
Because truth be told, it rarely goes well for the little guys and 2011 is certainly no exception.  As Desmond Tutu reminds us, "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chose the side of the oppressor."

I think about my children and their futures.  I think about how hard it is for them to find livable-wage jobs and afford housing here, on this island their ancestors worked so hard to settle.  This is injustice.  Not on the scale of the injustice endured by the children in the third world, but injustice just the same.  Our province, British Columbia has the highest rate of child poverty in Canada.  And the Cowichan valley where I live on Vancouver Island, has the highest rate in the whole province.

And I think about the First People and their children, and how hard it is for them to have a healthy, affordable life here -- where their families have lived for millennia.

Those thoughts lead me back to the desire to live a life of purpose, to stand for justice.  That's what animates me.  If you're reading this blog, I suspect that's (at least in part) what animates you, too.

So those of us who want to see a change in the world, speak up for justice.  We march for equity.  We petition for environmental sustainability.  We ___________ (you can fill in the blank, the list is endless). And we vote for those we feel are the best people for the job, at all levels of government.

The outcome isn't up to us individually.  But it is up to all of us, collectively.  All of us need to be working together to make our visions real.   Maybe we're going to have to step out of our comfort zone and get more involved to help that vision become real.  When the inevitable struggles show up when we speak for change, what's up to us is to stay the course, regardless of the obstacles, both inner and outer, that arise along the way.

As the Perseverance card says, "Once we discern our true direction, we stay the course for however long it takes."

Once I make the decision to stay the course, I realize that I am on a long job interview.  And my part is to  be as available and as transparent as possible to my prospective employers -- the residents of my community. And to persevere.

The outcome is not solely in my hands.  Getting that has made all the difference.  I am walking more lightly now, and taking time just to be -- with friends, with family -- to play, rest and be alone with myself.

Whatever the outcome, when we take on a task we believe in -- perseverance helps us to do what it takes to stay the course.

May you have the fortitude to persevere on your path, no matter what obstacles arise.
May we continue to change the world, one heart at a time.

Namaste

~ Kate



The Practice of Perseverance


I have a strong sense of purpose.

I have the will to overcome obstacles.

I remain committed to what I want to do.

I am determined to finish what I start.

I am trustworthy in my relationships.

I do what it takes to stay the course.

I am thankful for the gift of Perseverance.  It keeps me going.


Reflection Questions


What is my purpose?

What does creativity inspire me to do?

What is the true direction my life is calling me to now?

How can I overcome any obstacles?

Volume 36 - Honesty

Shakespeare, as he was wont to do, said it best.  "Honesty is the best policy.  If I lose mine honor, I lose myself."

Those of you reading this blog from places far and wide may not have had coverage of the  recent sad and untimely death of  Jack Layton, newly elected leader of Canada's official opposition.  A true leader,  he was loved by many -- even those who didn't agree with his politics.  Though millions have been touched deeply  by his words, in the cynical ways of politics, some naysayers (you find em in everywhere, non?) are calling the final letter  he wrote to Canadians, narcississtic and self aggrandizing.  I just don't get that.

Jack asked for and was granted the privilege to serve his country as leader of  Her Majesty's Opposition in the Canadian Parliament. He likely felt he owed those who granted him that privilege and responsibility, some parting words.  I call this both honest and honorable.

Linda Kavelin Popov, in her great wisdom shares very comprehensively the meaning of the virtues, on her 100 reflection cards.  She speaks of  the practice of honesty as "being truthful, sincere, open, and genuine."  When we are being honest, "we see ourselves and others with unclouded eyes.  We do not exaggerate to impress others.  We refuse to lie, cheat or take what is not ours.  We strive to keep our promises....We stand strong, knowing that we have true value in being who we are."

Jack took on a task, in 2004 as leader of Canada's  New Democratic Party.  And over four elections in the intervening years he and his team grew their parties seats from 13 to 103.   When Jack realized that he was not going to be able to fulfill his mandate,  he left a message to those who put their trust in him.  I take my hat off to him.  He shared honestly and from his heart.  And millions were moved.  Even people, like myself, that didn't belong to his party.

  

"Looking past divisive politics and differing views to the person on the other side of the issue may be challenging, but it's not impossible." says Elizabeth Lesser, cofounder of the Omega Institute and author of Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow.

She goes on to say, "Otherising" is the dangerous act of turning someone into the enemy just because he or she looks different, prays different, speaks different, or thinks different. Some of history's most tragic events—wars, genocides, terrorist acts—began with ordinary people demonizing other ordinary people."  Not to mention politicians and political parties.  This must end.  We must work together to solve the issues we all face together.   And one of the ways to help it end is to practice really listening (the 5th strategy of the virtues project“)   Lesser suggests, "Agree to these ground rules: Be curious, conversational and real. Don't persuade or interrupt. Listen, listen, listen.”

One of the things that I most admired about Jack was his committment and willingness to work across party lines. To listen to and weigh all opinions. Something we can all model in our homes, our workplaces, our communities.

 

Jack was not the first one to challenge all of us to engage with and learn from each other, to work together to make Canada a better country. And he won't be the last. You don't have to be a genuis to realize all of humanity must learn to engage with and learn from each other. To listen and to work together.

Often when we meet someone we really like we feel inspired by them.  We get excited.

Over time, we realize that the object of our admiration is human, and even has views and opinions with which we don't  agree.  The bloom goes off the rose as they say.

To create a growing relationship of any kind, between friends, partners, neighbours or co-workers, we must learn to communicate, consult and cooperate.  How much more then, do those humans charged with governing, need to learn and ceaselessly practice these arts.  Sometimes the process helps the other to modify their opinions. Sometimes we modify ours. Whatever happens, there is value just in the exchange.

It's an illusion that there is an us/them.   We are, all of us, spiritual beings having a human experience as Teillard of Chardin so eloquently said.  Honesty calls us to "recognize illusions and self-deceptions, to gently let them go." Even to admit mistakes at the risk of disappointing or angering another.  All of us need to be seen, heard and respected. The whole process, the clash of differing opinions, when done respectfully and openly, can result in the spark of truth. It moves us forward, to a new place.

Jack Layton inspired people in large part because he listened -- and  because he told the truth.  Because he cared.

He touched Canadians of all political stripes.   I was inspired by him in life, as he campaigned  this last April, his optimism and energy never flagging, but sadly,  to be perfectly honest, I was even more inspired by him at his death.  Like the life of one of my favorite public figures-- Dr. David Suzuki, (an honest voice for the science of climate change) -- Jack's letter to Canadians stirred me deeply.  When I see someone who has given their life to trying to make this world better, it makes me want to do my part.   I think many, many people feel the same. 

My honest prayer?  May all of us the world over work together for social justice in our homes, workplaces and communities. May we be honest with ourselves and others. We are one family -- the human family -- and it's way past time that we learned to love each other as well as the Earth and her inhabitants, upon which we all depend.

Jack Layton's final words said it in a way Canadians (and maybe you too) will not soon forget, "My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we'll change the world."  

And as he was fond of saying throughout his career, "Don't let anyone  ever tell you it can't be done."

Namaste

~ Kate

The Practice of Honesty

I am open and transparent.

I say what I mean and mean what I say.

I only make promises I can keep.

I continually seek to know the truth.

I have the humility to admit mistakes.

I am happy and content to be myself.

I am thankful for the gift of Honesty.  It allows me to be fully myself.

Reflection Questions

What promises are mine to keep?

What would help me to truly be happy and content to be me?

Where and with whom could I be more open and transparent.

What illusions and self deceptions does honestly call me to recognize?

Volume 35 - Idealism - Giving mine a voice through Service

Just as I opened this window to write this month's blog the  realization came to me that I started this blog 35 issues ago as a 'service' to folks that had come to workshops and wanted to continue their journey of self learning and changing the world, one heart at a time.

I've become aware that my entries have  often gotten longer (okay - unbearably long)  and have sometimes started to sound like I'm standing on a soapbox rather than humbly sharing my human journey as I try and walk the good red road of life.

For that I ask your forgiveness.   As I've drawn on humility and reflected on that tendency, what's become clearer to me is the root of it is  one of my core virtues - idealism.    I so resonate with George Bernard Shaw's, "You see things and you say, 'Why?'  But I dream things that never were and I say, 'Why not?'"

Linda Kavelin Popov tells us that,  "Idealism is having a vision of what is possible and wanting to make a difference.  It is caring passionately about what is meaningful in life.   Idealists see things as they could be and have faith in the power of change."

She goes on to tell us that idealists, "put our principles into action.  We don't just accept things the way they are.  We dare to have big dreams and then act as if they are possible.

"Idealism doesn't mean that we are idle dreamers.  Idle dreamers just wish things were better.  Idealists do something to make things better.  We make the ideal real."

I've been sharing how I've been affected by what is happening in the world in deep and profound ways.  How badly I want things to change in the world.    Out of my concern and the realization that the best place to affect change is right in front of me, in my own  family, neighbourhood and community -- I've decided to serve by standing for public office in my municipality this fall.  This should give me an outlet for the idealism that wants to see the world change and allow me to get back to the purpose of this blog.  To share my journey as a spiritual being having a human experience - and how calling on and cultivating the qualities of character help me to have a full and rich experience.

Using the gifts we've got and what we've  learned in the service of our ideals is the fullest expression of our lives.  "The quality of our own life comes from the quality of our contribution."  LKP

It's  time for me to get off the soap box, roll up my sleeves and offer what I can.  Like you, I've served my community in many ways.   My concerns about the state of the world and the amount of time I am spending fretting about them, makes this  the next logical step for me.   It's clear it's time to, 'put my money where my mouth is' so to speak.  I'm both excited and scared.  Will I have the stamina?  Can I really make a difference?  What if I'm unsuccessful, will it all be  a waste of time?

For many years, I didn't have the time to make this kind of commitment. It was have been unwise to do so then.   My family was too dependent and I was putting my all into raising them to be contributing, caring members of humanity.  People who know and value the virtues in themselves and others.  People who will make a difference.

It occurs to me that each of us who are 'recognizing our teachable moments' and learning to live lives of purpose through The Virtues Project are serving the world.   No matter what else our lives allow us to do for others, just growing our own hearts and characters is a profound service.   Sometimes we think we have to do something huge to make a difference.  So often it's the small things that make the  real difference.

"Everybody can be great ....because anybody can serve.  You don't have to have a college degree to serve....You only need  a heart full of grace.  A soul generated by love."  Martin Luther King Jr.

So, this next step is my way of serving my community.  The ideas I have about community building and communication are shared by many of my friends and neighbours.  Just getting them on the table, in the public discourse is an act of service.    My job, like yours,  is to walk my talk.  The outcome is up to fate.

As you enjoy the last half of summer -- wherever you are -- I invite you to ask what service your idealism calls you to at this time in your life?  Remember it doesn't have to be big.  It could be as simple as dropping in on an elderly neighbour once a week or volunteering at the local food bank once a month or even making a decision to  consciously acknowledge people for their virtues.  Saying to our partner, 'Honey, I so appreciate that you take responsibility for taking out the recycling week after week, month after month and I wanted you to know that.  I love you."  Or to the check out person at the grocery store, "Your cheerfulness really lifts my heart after a hard day.  Thank you for being a bright light in the world."

Recycling, reusing, re-gifting, conserving.  All these are ways of being of service.  If we were to start a list, I'm sure we'd be surprised at all the ways we are serving our ideals.

Please take this month's newsletter as an affirmation of all the ways you already do serve the world, and an invitation to open up to new avenues of service as your interest and energy allow.

Thank you for all the wonderful ways, big and small that you serve humanity and our planet everyday.

Each of us only has to play a small part, nobody can do it all.  And by playing our small part,  the part our unique spirit calls us to at this time of our lives, we really can change the world, one day, one heart at a time.

Namaste

~ Kate

The Practice of Idealism


I have a dream.

I have a plan.

I have faith in the highest possible outcome.

I walk my talk.

I persevere.

I make a difference.

I am thankful for the gift of Idealism.  It helps me to realize my dreams.


Reflection Questions


What is my dream?

What is my plan to achieve it?

What is most meaningful to me in my life?

How can I use my gifts to make a difference in the world?

Volume 34 - Trust

The virtue of Trust has been coming to me lately.  At a recent workshop, I modeled a virtues pick.  (If you'd like to try one, click on the link to your right under ACTIVITIES)  You begin by thinking about an issue in your life, then pick the virtue, read it, and consider how it 'speaks' to you.

Whenever I ask participants to try an exercise, I model it for them.  So I talked about an issue in my own life, what was 'up' for me if you will.

I talked about my feelings around my son and his leaving home.  His journey of becoming a man.

He's not taking a traditional path, but going out and exploring life on his own terms.  He's hit the road, checking out the province.  Being Mom -- of course I worry.  At the time of the workshop, he'd been gone for two days.  I had asked him if he'd call when he got to his first destination, a new age conference/festival near Boston Bar.

He had been noncommittal at the time, but I heard "Yes" -- in spite of the fact that he's been preparing me for a couple of years for the time when he set out on his 'adventure' -- telling me not to worry if I didn't hear from him for awhile.  Telling me he needed to break away from home.  Wisely letting me know that he recognized our relationship needs to change.  That he needs to become the maker of his life.

Even with all that preparation, I was worried I hadn't heard from him.  (after all, he said he'd call went my mind mantra)

I told them how hard it is for me to let him go and not keep carrying thoughts of him in my mind and images of him in my heart almost every waking moment.  About the feelings of grief I have that our journey together is forever changed.  How fast it all seemed to happen!  Just the other day, he was a baby climbing the stairs,  a toddler climbing the furniture,  a pre-schooler climbing a slide, a six-year-old climbing a tree, a 'tween climbing a mountain.  How could that all be over?

A tear or two was spilled.  Then I realized its not over, just changing.  Now he's a young man, climbing out of the comfort of home to a place in the world.  And my job is to let him know I have every confidence in his ability to do so.

At the end of sharing, I pulled a virtue from the basket in the middle of the table.  "Trust."  It always astounds me, in spite of 100 to 1 odds, I get just the card I need at that moment.

"Trust is having faith, hope and a positive outlook.  Trust is believing in someone or something.  We have confidence that the right thing will come about without trying to control it or make it happen.  We trust others to do what they say they will do, and give them the space to be trustworthy.  Sometimes it is difficult to trust when life brings painful experiences.  Trust is being sure, in the depths of our being, that there is some gift or learning in everything that happens.  We move confidently with the flow of life, gathering strength from adversity.  We know we are never alone."  --Linda Kavelin Popov

Holding on to trust got me through the next week.  It was fully 10 days until I heard from him.  When I asked him why he hadn't called, his immediate answer, in a confused tone of voice was, "I did call."  And so he did.  And will again.
In his way and on his way to independence.

Funny how life  works -- as I wrote that,  he called again.   From Nelson, where he's checking out the Kootenay School of the Arts -- in his way, on his terms.  It was wonderful to hear his voice, but even more wonderful to hear his confidence.  His independence.  I was able to stand aside and listen deeply to his plans and to his dreams.  I resisted giving him advice, trusting that he is doing his life, in his way.  It felt good.

Ironic that this happened on the eve of Canada Day.  As we Canadians celebrate our independence this July 1st, I'm comforted to know that the same spirit that founded this beautiful country lives in so many of our young people.  Pioneering a new world, they have much to bring to the table.  In their way, in their time.  Knowing that, I'm somehow comforted.

So I hold my son in trust.  Like his forebears, he is walking his own path.  I trust it will lead to good things.


Namaste

~ Kate

The Practice of Trust


I maintain my hope.


I do not nag others or try to control them.


I believe there is some good in everything that happens.


I allow trust to heal my fears.


I am confident in my capacity for lifelong learning.


I rely on Divine assistance.


I am thankful for the gift of trust.  It renews my strength.


Reflection questions:


What situation in my life calls me to trust?


How can I trust that my loved ones have everything they need to lead their own lives?


What fears could trust heal?


How can I move confidently with the flow of life?

Volume 33 - Unity

     When Hal David penned the words to Burt Bacharach's melody "What the World Needs Now Is Love."  almost 50 years ago, it seemed to many that things were looking up.   It was the year after Nixon resigned and the US troops came home from Vietnam.  Lester B. Pearson, then Prime Minister of Canada with a minority Liberal government, introduced universal health care, student loans, the Canada pension Plan, the Order of Canada and the current Maple Leaf flag. 

     The counter-culture "hippie" movement was taking hold, with its visions of love, peace, communal living and artistic expression. The Cold War was still casting its chilly effect on our sense of security, and it was the height of the civil rights movement.   Though zero population growth was being touted as an ideal in some circles, global warming was not yet part of the public discourse.

     The post-war materialistic boom was still underway, and from our human-centric view, it looked like we were heading into a future of prosperity like none other. 

     The way we define "prosperity" has become a major problem as we stand here, in 2011 -- at a crossroads -- with world wide population exploding, natural systems imploding, unemployment and under-employment rampant, hunger growing, and no clear answers in sight.  

     I mentioned Einstein's definition of insanity last blog:  continuing to do the same thing and expecting a different result. Or to put it pointedly -- when thinking of "business as usual" on planet Earth, an appropriate question might be, "How's that working for ya?"

     I wrote last month with the Japanese nuclear crisis still unfolding.  Since that time, the United States has been hit with devastating tornadoes, and both the US and Canada with extreme flooding.  Crops may not get in the ground in time.  Reaching peak oil has increased the cost of everything, from groceries to transportation to home heating and all other goods.  Far too many people are living lives of poverty and deprivation.  And we continue to destroy the environment on which we depend at an alarming rate, largely to meet our rapidly growing demands for food, fresh water, timber, fiber and fuel.  

     We see the challenges before us -- and  like little children, we argue back and forth (right and left) about what the issues really are and what needs to be done to solve them.

     Seems to me that that what the world needs now is love -- and unity.

Linda Kavelin Popov speaks of unity as a "powerful virtue" that "brings great strength.  Unity," she goes on to say, "is inclusiveness.  It  brings people together.  We set our commonality without devaluing our differences.         We experience our connectedness with all people and all life.  Unity frees us from the divisiveness of prejudice and heals our fears."

     When we are practicing unity, "We refuse to engage in conflict, seeking peace in all circumstances.  Unity comes when we value every person, in our family or in our world."

     How does this rag-tag group of hurt people known as humanity get together and practice unity?

     I think it begins by shifting our point of view.  With unity as the primal point, we acknowledge that "the joy of one is the joy of all" and conversely, that "the hurt of one is the hurt of all, the honor of one is the honor of all." (Linda Kavelin Popov)

     How can we look at our neighbors, both near and far, with love in our hearts and unity in our minds and actions?  

     There is an Ojibway prayer that reads, "We know that we are the ones who are divided, and we are the ones who must come back together to walk in the Sacred Way."  (Oneworld Book of Prayer, p. 152)

     I can get so triggered by people's opinions that I judge as wrong I could cuss and spit.   Especially in areas I feel passionate about, areas that I feel are critical to take action on.  I can argue my point vociferously.

     Recently I was at a meeting in the municipality I live in, where the Mayor and Council were reviewing input from the public to improve the draft Official Community Plan.  One of the members started a debate about using the word 'certain' in relation to sea level rising.  He went into his opinion (in spite of the overwhelming scientific opinion) that sea level rise was not certain.  I was practically apoplectic when neither the mayor nor members of the council took him on.  I googled a webpage on the BC Government's Environmental site which explained the certainty of climate change.  I waved my hand to try and get the mayor to acknowledge me, so that I could point it out -- all to no avail.  And then I learned something.  The mayor and other members of council were willing to remove this word (even those whom I know certainly don't dispute the 'certain' rise of sea level)  The new wording didn't change the intent of the paragraph, but helped to build unity amongst the members of council.   

     It was a teachable moment for me.  Sometimes it's important to stand firm and other times, when it won't make a  difference to the outcome, its important to allow others point of view to be recognized.    

     In the past (and even that day) I would see such a person  as being an obstructionist (not realizing they likely saw me the same way)  I've noted over time how off putting that attitude usually is.  How it only seemed to entrench the other person in their position. (and me in mine)  How it resulted in discomfort and disunity.  And how it can often hurt the other, instead of help them and hurt the situation instead of helping it.   

     These days, I'm trying my best to "get curious, not furious" with others when their viewpoints differ radically from mine.   Sometimes, I hold a point of view that seems accurate -- but the real truth is, I only have a limited view of the issues.  

   Last night I was at another meeting.  It was called by a well intentioned local activist in the small seaside town I call home.  We're a geographically small part of a very large, fiscally prudent municipality and some folks  (this gentleman included) have been feeling we're being ignored.  Unfortunately, his style of communication is not about seeking unity, but seeing and feeding discord.  He said some things that were not only inaccurate but inflammatory.  People began to react to the misinformation and get angry.  Then several people stood up and asked for unity.  They didn't actually use the word itself but they were describing the disunity he was promulgating  as 'negative', as an 'us and them' attitude.  He continued to be defensive and to assert his views, and a few of the younger folks took it to heart.  There is still work to do.  But I was very proud of the folks that wanted to bring us back to a more positive ground.  Back to unity.   

     From a limited vantage point, it's easy to pass judgment and take a stand.  It's more difficult to take the other's point of view and stand in their shoes.  But decidedly richer.  From the clash of differing opinions can come a brilliant solution.

     At the end of the day, no matter where on this earth we live, we're all neighbors.  Neighbors learning how to live with each other and with the biosphere that supports us.  

        And we all want pretty much the same general thing.    To live in a place where healthy, happy people of all ages live together peaceably and productively, in communities that cooperate -- with each other and with the land we live on.   A place where people who are struggling (for whatever reason) are given the tools and support they need to be happy and healthy. (We may differ on the means to this end, but I don't think too many people want to see others suffer.)

     I've come to believe that change is best accomplished in our homes and neighborhoods, towns and communities, right here on the ground where we live.  That each of us can be agents of change.  And that unity is the pathway we must walk to get there.  

    How can we learn to to listen to each other?  To share our differing opinions with respect, and to listen to the other's thoughts and feelings with respect?  Building relationships, striving for unity, is the only way we will ever be able to solve the external problems we face. 

     It's become clear to me that we all need to be leaders for change, in whatever way feels right to us.  To be mindful of our own issues and the areas we need to grow in -- and then do the work to grow.  

     The examples I've given from my own life are really about democracy.  Democracy can and should be a collaboration.  It should feel more like building a house or planting a garden, and less like a tug of war.   No one has all the answers, but if we agree to combine our energy, talents and resources -- we just might find the solutions we need. 

       This is the commitment I am making this month.  To myself, to my intimates and neighbours.  To be a voice for unity -- for finding common ground.   To share my views with others and listen to theirs.  To vote every day for peace and justice by practicing the principle of unity in all my affairs. 

     I invite you to join me.  What the world needs now is love -- and unity.  May it come soon.

Namaste,

~ Kate

The Practice of Unity

I am a lover of humanity.

I seek common ground.

I appreciate differences.

I resolve conflict peacefully.

I honor the value of each individual.

I am a unifier.

I am thankful for the gift of Unity.  It makes me an instrument of peace.

Reflection Questions

What situations in my life are calling for unity?

How can I value each individual while resolving conflict peacefully?

How can I be true to myself and still practice unity?

What action does the principle of unity call me to today?